The Comeback

Hey Loves 

Honestly, I can say that I am kind of tired of apologising for the gaps between blogs, you guys must be over it as well. HHHOOOOOWWWEEEVVEERRR once I start revealing the Tea ☕, I'm secretly hoping you will both forgive me and completely wipe me out of your bad books lool. It's worth it trust me 😉.

Mmmmm where to start? Ok so firstly I will explain my writing style, I can only blog when God allows me to, If I try to move before him and blog anything, I tend to get a writer's block and end up writing a bunch of nonsense, I practically feel like a fraud, totally out of my comfort zone. So the solution to that issue is simply to wait for God to give me the unction to speak and share what he wants me to share. 

Did you ever wonder if it is possible to expose parts of yourself but still maintain a respectable level of privacy? Well in my wisdom no, but when I allow God to use me when he sees fit and not when I want to be used, he allows me to be as transparent as my readers need me to be without hurting myself or my loved one's. Trust me I need God's wisdom because it's easy to get carried away, plus I can talk for England, the USA and the whole African Continent. 

So for those who do not know me personally or do not follow my social media platforms, I got married... and it happened quick. I married the one and only Mr Dominic Ford on the 3rd of August 2019. 

I can just hear the gasps.... or the WWWWWHHHAAATTT? there are probably a few odd comments about how quick it happened but that's ok and to be honest, I expected it. I went through the judgement and the many speculations that it was too soon after our dear Jide's passing, and the many questions mostly focused on why the rush?? plus more. Most of you know me better to know that I tend to not make huge life choices without God telling me to do so, especially when it includes my babies. All I can say without taking too much of your time is "This is God yal". 

Not long after the burial, Many unwelcomed (at the time) prophecies were fired my way regarding God restoring what had been lost and that I would remarry. My heart sunk at the idea of receiving another, I fought with God often on the matter and made it abruptly clear that I did not want to do this again, I did not want another marriage let alone, another relationship, nevermind it being too soon, I just simply did not want it, EVER. 

God spoke to me often on the matter, reassuring me that he was going to present me his best. He even laughed at me. Yes, it's true God truly does have a sense of humour. He laughed at me because he knew I simply did not believe that he could give me anything like or better than what I had. At the time I thought that just seemed very insensitive of him until I later came to the revelation of what he truly meant. 

During the entire season of loss, God truly honoured his word and he rehoused me and the kids in a secure home, 4 months after the funeral I started a new job in a college, got a new car and I was starting to rebuild, I did a few speaking events at women empowerment seminars and I was getting my life. By this time I succumbed to God will for my life... I didn't want to fight God anymore, to be truthful I couldn't, how could I? when almost daily he was manifesting his promise of restoration for me and the kids, I got to the point of simply Yes and Amen. Plus fighting God is pointless guys, trust me you will lose lool. 

1st December 2018, I had a dream about a friend I had not seen in over 2 years, I say friend and use that term very loosely as to be fair we never really ever spent much time together to be classed as friends but more acquaintances, as most of our contact was in passing in the odd years we would pass by one another and time spent talking was in sporadic moments, as we both admired each other for different reasons, He respected and looked up to my relationship and marriage and how God had built up my family. I admired his hard work and determination, he had a crazy work ethic, a true boss. 

The following morning I could not shake this dream, I could not get him out of my head, I shared the dream with my mother, who helped me to realise there was a message to be delivered. God often used me like that, Where he would give me dreams or visions that I would have to deliver to his people. After a short search, I reached out, with the purest of intentions, just to simply share the word and be on my way. 

Well, long story short the idea of being on my way lead to courtship and short after marriage. It turns out that dream was God showing more than the heart of Dominic but his intentions for us together. During our catch up, a revelation was flowing in abundance to the point we could not deny that God was playing matchmaker. I'm secretly grateful he did it this way because Guys I'm not a tinder or speed dating kind of girl, Plus when God hooks you up with his people, he does it well. 

We realised that God had aligned our purposes and our destinies so well it was as though our paths were identically woven the only difference was our sexual anatomies. Ministries that God was taking us into were the same, countries that God would have us go to were the same, our desires for personal advancements were the same, he was literally my mirror image. Not to mention I found him very attractive. It just all seemed too good to be true. 

Previous to this I had a very interesting experience with a guy on Instagram who claimed God told him I was his wife... only to find out this man thought all 500+ women on his Instagram were also his wives, this dude was looking for a golden ticket opportunity to take advantage of a broken, lost, confused or simply stupid woman who he could milk and scam and guys he almost got your girl. I entertained it for a while and almost got myself sprung, however when you have an intimacy with God, your pathways of communication with him are very clear and undeniable. He had me test our dear insta friend and of course he failed in more ways than one. 

So based on that you could probably imagine my reluctance to jump both feet in with Dominic, I tested and tested as the bible says we should. I spoke to God often and asked him to remove this man from my life if he is not your intended for me. I sought confirmation and council from my loved ones and elders, It got to the point where God asked me how many more times am I going to ask him if this man was mine. That was all I needed, I finally accepted this was God will. Never mind the fact that this man months before this time was prophecied to the T. God told me months before he was someone I already knew of, and that he has seen me and the woman I am, also that he has been spending time in prayer asking God to prepare himself for his wife. Powerful right? 

It was so hard to relax in the idea that this was happening to me, for me. Having come out of a season of hardship and loss, anything good that came my way, I struggled to receive in fear that it was not going to last, that maybe I was hearing wrong and it wasn't for me, I was frightened of the pain and putting myself and the kids into something that may be snatched away later. I was scared of the judgment I would receive, the people who my moving on would hurt. Exercising faith was my challenge that season. 

5 months into courting Dominic popped the question, I said yes without fear or hesitation. Why?

Because everything about this man pulled me deeper into God, He desired not just me but the 4 children I came with, he was adamant that the moment we marry, he would adopt them and they would bear his name, he desired them to be his and for them and any future children would inherit all that he would build for them, this very thing he did, as soon as we married, he honoured his word. The kids fell in love with him quicker than I did. 

It was so important to me that the kids wanted this, that they saw God in this for themselves, that they were at peace and happy. They truly blew my mind, it was the kids convincing me through words and actions that "Mummy this is God" or "Mummy, he is the one". They assured me this was Gods gift to us because he loves us. 

After we got married we fell pregnant with our second set of twins, Identical girls during the first Coronavirus lockdown, months after their birth we fell pregnant again with our beautiful son, so you can imagine how much more I have to catch you with. 

I would like to shed some light on the concept of God bringing me his best and restoring all I had lost. When God takes you through a season of brokenness and allows you to lose, it's all to prepare you for a new and greater season of your life. It to teach you lessons and to give you a level of strength and dependency on him that you probably did not know you had, if you lose people there is a purpose behind it, and we have to remember not everyone whether friends or family can go with you, should go with you or are meant to go with you.  Gods desire is for elevation. it's not to say what we had wasn't good, but the question is was it, God. There is Gods will, our will and a permissible will. So when you say Gods will be done, be prepared that it will possibly shake the fabric of everything you've known but it's for a greater and grander purpose, Amen. 

I could keep going but this blog is already long, I will continue to catch you all up on how we got to today and much more. I believe that God wants me to break our blogs up and categories them as there is so much wisdom, knowledge and understanding he wants to share plus my experience, revelations, nuggets and my truth (Good, Bad and Ugly and the struggles and victories in between). 

So from here on, I will do my best to Blog a few times a week. starting the weeks off with Mummy Mondays where I talk about everything motherhood and babies, now that I am a mum of 7 from 14 years old twins boy and girl, 12-year-old boy, 10-year-old girl, 16-month identical twin girls and 11-week old son. I need to offload and vent guys lol. Followed by Woman / Wifey Wednesdays where I share everything from being a wife and woman, in general as just being a woman is a struggle in itself lool. I'm thinking about Fellowship Friday but I'm not sure yet, any ideas please feel free to share them with me, and any questions or topics you want me to address in the coming blogs please let me know via the comments or social media @ShessimplyV or Jenna Ford for Facebook, You can also follow my family on our @Theroyalfords insta page and for those who haven't seen my person, my hubby his insta is @kingdmford. 

O and I can't forget... during the pandemic we started a business, please follow us at @Simplyvbakes, there will be more on this later. 

Thank you again for taking your time out to read and share with me. Please feel free to repost and share with anyone who could benefit from these blogs. there is so much to come, watch this space, Gods doing big things this side. 

Love to all

Psalms 71:21

You will Restore me to even greater honour and comfort me  once again.