Brief catch up on 4 years and making the best of nothing and unfavorable situations.
Hey Loves
Its been a while, Like can you imagine a whole 4 years (Jheez).
well, one thing is certain I have plenty to share, so much has changed, but one thing that will remain the same is the direction of this blog page. I still aim to use this platform to share my personal experience and knowledge to empower, encourage and support those who feel that they need it and that can relate.
I will try my best to make this short and sweet, without cutting any corners, however, my intention is to give you an overall insight and a quick peek into the last 4 years as there will be blogging over the next few weeks to break things down a lot more and how we overcame obstacles, whats next and life lessons that can help others to overcome and become successful in many stages on their lives.
If you haven't already, read my last blog ' No more excuses', it will give a better understanding of this current read.
In the past 4 years, my family and I started a youtube channel 'The Tona Diaries' but just like my blogging that had to come to a long pause, during this period I also went back to school and got a degree in Criminology, Psychology and Social justice, whilst going through the process of eviction for the second time in less than 2 years.
2 month after completing my degree, it was official we were homeless, 2 weeks later my husband was diagnosed with cancer stage 4.
To say the early days of August was like being continuously punched in the face is an understatement.
we later found out that my husband's diagnosis was a lot worse than expected, he had Lymphoma and T-cell Leukemia.
For 8 weeks before his diagnosis, I watched the face of King change before my eyes (I call and refer to my husband as King which i will address in another blog). over the weeks I witnessed lumps take over my hubby's neck and face, until one day he came face to face with death.
I rushed him to the local hospital, where the life I once knew was over.
REALLY!!!
My heart broke, all hope had left my body, faith was nowhere to be seen, the worst thoughts that I could think was all I felt at the time to keep me company, anger struck me. How could God let this happen to us, how could Dr's wait so long to diagnose him? what was our fate? what about my children? I am I going to be a young widow?
my questions were unending if I listed all my questions and thoughts this blog would be about 10 pages. this is just how I felt, I couldn't even try to fathom what King was feeling or going through.
It took a lot of strength and support from those closes to me to keep me going, so that I could be the best support for King during this time and our children.
Do I wish I could change our experiences? weirdly enough NO, I just wished that my husband didn't have to experience the physical pain and discomfort. I will elaborate on this in another post.
Bare with me, this blog will be in parts as there is so much to share, but it will come.
However I will put you out of your misery, we are no longer homeless and Hubby is in remission, we thank God.
We still have a long way to go however we have come out the other side.
What's next
I am less than a year away from being out of heavy debt, which I will be sharing my strategies and ways that anyone can get themselves out of debt.
This year plans are coming together to get a budding business off the ground, I will share more in another blog, sharing how to build a realistic business plan and how to utilize things in the home and social media to your advantage to make money and start building your brand.
As we have our home now, we are in the process of decorating and furnishing our home to a standard that says 'rich' and glamorous on a BUDGET, I will be sharing ideas on how to make this possible.
The last 6 months have taught me a lot about myself, learning to be comfortable doing me, due to my husbands treatment he spends a lot of time away in hospital, which has been hard as the longest we have spent away from each other before this was a weekend, and now I am forced to go weeks with King not being home. my prayer was Lord whatever you have separated us for don't let it be in vain, and I can confidently say it has not been in vain, I am more independent, I have growing patients, I'm a lot stronger emotionally and spiritually.
Again I will expand on these things in upcoming posts.
For many years, by the grace of God people have always commented on myself and my husbands relationship and our marriage and how we have and are raising our children and I'm so proud to say that my husband and I have a successful marriage of 5 years and 15 years together, this year it will be 6years married and 16 years together, and we have 4 amazing, smart and mannerable children, who embrace their diffrences, I will be posting on how we have come so far and things that we implement in our relationship and household.
trust me when you hear some of the stories you probably wouldn't believe me because, before things were sweet and calm, our relationship was very much the complete opposite.
also, il be discussing relationships with friends and family and building your inner circle, knowing and identifying who is for you and who is not for you.
I will also share on how I have juggled being a mum, student, wife, business woman, child of God, and many of the other responsibilities and circumstances that life throws our way, and handling it with grace and tenacity, and living up to a virtuous woman standard in this day and age, is it possible?
I'm hoping you will stick with me on these journeys and that what I share will be beneficial to you, and that it can help you in identifying, confidently address and facing some of the things in your life.
It's in my heart to do a youtube version of this blog so that it can be a little more interactive and I can stretch to a wider audience who are not into reading lool. we will see about this, I'm truly going as the Lord leads.
Thank you for taking the time to share in my posts and I pray that whatever the desire of God through the creations of these posts and exposures of my life and innermost secrets and lessons will be fulfilled.
Remember in everything you go through is a lesson, or a reason, don't be consumed by your circumstances and don't let your circumstances control you, you take control, and make something bad, hard, sad or frustrating work in your favour, don't focus on whats wrong in the situation but try a find whats right and how you can best overcome.
John 16: 33
I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me, here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world.
(If Christ Jesus is an overcomer, then so are we for he lives in us).
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